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A mom shares the emotional growth of her six year old

I鈥檝e never really found the words empathetic or emotive as words that describe my six year old son Alex. Caring, kind, funny, charismatic and observant are all great descriptors of my curly-haired boy. Empathetic and emotionally expressive, well, maybe not so much.

Alex has always been very practical and logical. When he was born, he wouldn鈥檛 cry and this was concerning to the physicians as they needed him to cry to clear his lungs. He eventually did (on his own timeline). However, it was almost as if he waited because he didn鈥檛 see the point of crying when he wasn鈥檛 upset.

A couple of years ago, I asked Alex to snuggle with me as we watched television. Knowing that he would be reluctant, I told him I was cold and he could keep me warm. He considered my request, scooted down next to me on the couch, snuggled for a few minutes and then promptly stated 鈥測ou鈥檙e warm enough now鈥� and returned to his former spot.

He has never been the type of child to be overly affectionate or empathetic. For example, if I鈥檓 ill, he鈥檚 likely to say, 鈥淢om, you should go to the doctor鈥� and this response will only be triggered after I complain of a cough, sore throat, cold, etc. It鈥檚 not that his responses are inappropriate. They just aren鈥檛 overly empathetic. Having been around young nieces who were very expressive, I think I have a tendency to expect this from Alex. I鈥檝e kept my fingers crossed that he would grow into his inner empath. And, I think he finally is (again, on his own timeline).

Recently, Alex and his friend were playing with their toys guns. As they prepared to go outside, I overheard his friend say, 鈥淚 don鈥檛 want to take my gun outside.鈥� I heard Alex reply, 鈥渢hat鈥檚 ok, I鈥檒l cover you.鈥� I found his response quite funny at first and then I realized that he was looking after his friend through their imaginative play.

About a month ago, we had to put our German Shepherd, Ember, down. The news of her illness was a surprise and it was less than two weeks from the time that I learned something was wrong until her final ultrasound showed that she had a very aggressive form of cancer; the kindest thing to do was put her down. I wasn鈥檛 sure how Alex would take the news.

As I explained that Em was sick and wouldn鈥檛 get better, he listened attentively. Knowing that she would likely be put down that day, I told Alex that she probably would not be home when he came home from school. I explained that she was going to die soon and I was going to take her to the vet. I suggested that he say goodbye to her and tell her what a good dog she had been. He didn鈥檛 respond and just watched me. I asked him if he understood and he said 鈥測es鈥� and then motioned with his hand to wave me out of the room so that he could be alone with the dog.

I鈥檒l never know what he said to her in their moments alone. If he patted her on the head, gave her a hug or just looked at her. But, he clearly wanted a mom-free moment with her and knowing this, I didn鈥檛 ask him about the time they shared.

That afternoon when I picked Alex up from school I told him that Em was gone and that we could talk about it if he wanted. I told him that I was sad and that we would miss her. Alex was quiet and, knowing that he probably wouldn鈥檛 share his feelings, I told him that if he wanted to look at her pictures later, he could. A few hours later, he asked me to see her photos.

A couple of weeks passed without him initiating any conversation about her. One day he brought home a paper where he had to complete a thought. The sentence started with, 鈥淚 wish.鈥� Alex finished the thought by adding, 鈥渢hat I had a dog.鈥� While saddened, it warmed my heart to know that he did think of her and that he had expressed that thought in writing according to his own timeline.

About Tiffany

Tiffany is the mother of a curly haired six year old boy who wants to be Batman when he grows up! When she is not engaged in an intense light saber battle, watching Transformers (cartoons and movies), asking her child not to jump from the top step or being told, 鈥測ou鈥檙e playing action figures the wrong way, mom鈥� she contemplates how wonderful it would be if her child were a twin or triplet. Tiffany is the Human Resources Manager for im电竞app.